SENIOR SOLUTIONS MAY 2013
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**Dear Solutions**: I’m writing to you because I see that you deal with seniors and this is a problem with my mother. I’ve just had my second baby. My husband is trying very hard in a drug rehab program and is only working part time. I work full time but ... Read more ...
Posted by Helen.Oxenberg-MSW | midnight, 5/1/2013
SENIOR SOLUTIONS APRIL 2013
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**Dear Solutions**: I’ve started to see a man who I knew long ago before we were both widowed. I’d like him as a friend without any physical intimacy but each time he takes me to dinner or gets tickets to something he tries to kiss me goodnight afterward. I don’t ... Read more ...
Posted by Helen.Oxenberg-MSW | midnight, 4/1/2013
SENIOR SOLUTIONS MARCH 2013
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**Dear Solutions**: How do you stop someone from constantly saying something about your appearance that is actually untrue without insulting her? This acquaintance who I see often at various meetings always greets me after looking me up and down with --- “Oh, you’ve lost weight”. I haven’t lost weight and ... Read more ...
Posted by Helen.Oxenberg-MSW | midnight, 3/1/2013
SENIOR SOLUTIONS FEBRUARY 2013
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**Dear Solutions**: I was at a big birthday party recently. It was pretty formal since we all received invitations by mail. There were many lovely gifts given and then this surprise. Before the end of the evening envelopes were handed out to each guest and we were asked to please ... Read more ...
Posted by Helen.Oxenberg-MSW | midnight, 2/1/2013
SENIOR SOLUTIONS JANUARY 2013
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**Dear Solutions**: Up until recently I really thought that my daughter and I had a really special relationship - that we were really friends. I'm still working and I'm very active and independent and that's how she always thinks of me. But a couple of months ago we traveled together ... Read more ...
Posted by Helen.Oxenberg-MSW | midnight, 1/1/2013
SENIOR SOLUTIONS DECEMBER 2012
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**Dear Solutions**: My neighbor came to visit me with her twin 3 year old grandchildren. I have connecting couches so I guess they look like play gyms or something. They started climbing from one to the other and jumping up and down and so on. Their grandmother said “Oh they’re ... Read more ...
Posted by Helen.Oxenberg-MSW | midnight, 12/1/2012
SENIOR SOLUTIONS NOVEMBER 2012
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**Dear Solutions**: My brother has MS and uses a motorized chair. He is a bright mature adult and a professional. Recently on vacation we went to a casino. One of the hostesses leaned down as he was riding along and asked, with a big smile, “And which game are you ... Read more ...
Posted by Helen.Oxenberg-MSW | midnight, 11/1/2012
SENIOR SOLUTIONS OCTOBER 2012
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**Dear Solutions:** My cousin inherited a large sum of money and it's very aggravating to the rest of he family because of what he does with it. He's about to get married for the fourth time. Each marriage has ended in divorce and a very big settlement for the wife. ... Read more ...
Posted by Helen.Oxenberg-MSW | midnight, 10/1/2012
SENIOR SOLUTIONS SEPTEMBER 2012
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**Dear Solutions**: For many years a neighbor and I have been fairly close friends. We have similar interests and attended formal functions and informal outings together – lunch, dinner, movies, etc. Suddenly she is not only ignoring me by not returning calls etc. but when we’re in the same place ... Read more ...
Posted by Helen.Oxenberg-MSW | midnight, 9/1/2012
SENIOR SOLUTIONS AUGUST 2012
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**Dear Solutions**: My friends and family made me a big birthday party recently and there were many presents. I opened each present in front of the givers and thanked each one sincerely. I know thank you notes have to be sent when you get presents in the mail but I’m ... Read more ...
Posted by Helen.Oxenberg-MSW | midnight, 8/1/2012
SENIOR SOLUTIONS JULY 2012
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**Dear Solutions**: A friend of mine sent me a self-help book about problem solving. I find it a little insulting because she says she’s always noticed that I always have a problem making a decision. I don’t need her to help me “solve” my faults. I never told her I ... Read more ...
Posted by Helen.Oxenberg-MSW | midnight, 7/1/2012
SENIOR SOLUTIONS JUNE 2012
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**Dear Solutions:** My friend’s husband committed suicide. She keeps talking about how guilty she feels and trying to see what she could have done to stop this. I’m very uncomfortable talking to her. I know how to talk to people who have lost someone in a normal way and I ... Read more ...
Posted by Helen.Oxenberg-MSW | 11:07 a.m., 6/1/2012
SENIOR SOLUTIONS MAY 2012
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**Dear Solutions:** I am married for the second time.We're both seniors. My husband is a laid back quiet person. We had a party last week and I had planned what I would do and what he would do. He came home late after the guests were there and just sat ... Read more ...
Posted by Helen.Oxenberg-MSW | 11:04 a.m., 5/1/2012
SENIOR SOLUTIONS APRIL 2012
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**Dear Solutions:** I’ve raised four children so I think I know a little about children’s needs. I have a four year old granddaughter and when I visited them for dinner they gave her cereal as her meal. When I asked why my daughter-in-law said because she loves cereal. I told ... Read more ...
Posted by Helen.Oxenberg-MSW | 8:33 a.m., 4/1/2012
SENIOR SOLUTIONS MARCH 2012
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**Dear Solutions**: My sister, a widow, was left a lot of money. The younger man who was taking care of her husband when he was sick at home is now making all kinds of romantic come-ons to her while he keeps borrowing money from her. Since she’s supposedly competent her ... Read more ...
Posted by Helen.Oxenberg-MSW | 8:22 a.m., 3/1/2012
SENIOR SOLUTIONS FEBRUARY 2012
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Dear Solutions: My sister’s husband left her and wants a divorce now after 40 years of marriage. We’re all in shock but my sister, of course, is worst of all. She just can’t believe this is happening to her and I don’t know what to do to help her get through this. She keeps saying he’s sending her back to being single and alone and how could he do this after 40 years and so on. How can I help her? After all, divorces have been happening to other people in long marriages all over the place lately so I don’t know why she’s so shocked. Read more ...
Posted by Helen.Oxenberg-MSW | 6 a.m., 2/1/2012
SENIOR SOLUTIONS JANUARY 2012
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Dear Solutions: What do you do with a wife who seems to enjoy picking fights all the time over unimportant things – mostly when I’m trying to fall asleep. Read more ...
Posted by Helen.Oxenberg-MSW | 6 a.m., 1/1/2012
SENIOR SOLUTIONS DECEMBER 2011
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Dear Solutions: When my kids were growing up I always told them that I flat didn't believe in birthday celebrations or Father's Day or any of those things -- that they were just commercial. The took me at my word. This past Father's Day I really felt rotten when I didn't hear from anyone (I'm alone now). I used to be Mr. macho but I actually was tearful. My birthday is coming up soon. I don't want to wind up eating my words but I don't want to be ignored either. How do I accomplish his? Read more ...
Posted by Helen.Oxenberg-MSW | 1:49 p.m., 11/22/2011
SENIOR SOLUTIONS NOVEMBER 2011
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Dear Solutions: A few years after my husband died I met a widower. We’re both fairly young seniors and he, I’ll call him Frank, became more and more attentive and we went out for over a year. I heard that he had been out with lots of women so I was flattered when he told me he wanted to be with me for he rest of his life. We decided to live together and Frank moved in with me making all kinds of promises to be supportive and faithful. I believed him because during that time he bought me diamond earrings and a gold ring and bracelet and when my washing machine broke he bought me a new one. I believed that he was sincere and I acted like an old fashioned wife cooking his meals, washing his clothes and so on. Now I suddenly find out that during this time he’s been seeing one of his old girlfriends and now he says he’s sorry but he’s going to move out and be with her. He wants me to give back the diamond earrings and gold jewelry because he says they were tokens of us being together. He says he paid his share when we were together and now it’s only fair that I should return his gifts. I say no. He says I should be fair. Is he right? Read more ...
Posted by Helen.Oxenberg-MSW | 11:12 a.m., 11/22/2011
